There’s always a reason for us to hang out with people. We don’t hang out with people that don’t add value to our life. This is what a lot of puas reffer to as attraction, the value that the girl perceives you will bring to her life. This is also the case for friends, business partners, female friends and any type of relationship you might want to have with an individual. If you bring nothing to them, they will not want to hang out with you, and if they bring nothing to you, you will not want to hang out with them.
A form of value that everyone knows is looks. You see a hot girl, she has value to you because you can sleep with her, befriend her and increase your value or maybe even she could be the girl you spend the rest of your life with.
Another exemple of value that most of you will recognize is playfulness. If you meet a girl in a bar and you guys are both playful with each other, it pumps both of your states, it makes you guys have a good time which enough enhencement to your lifes for both of you to stay there.
Would that be enough to form a friendship or for her to want to see you again only based on that playfulness? Maybe, but probably not. If you do nothing else the moment will pass and the next day only playfulness doesn’t add enough value to her life.
What kind of value could you bring that would make her want to become friends, or hang out at a later time so you can “game” her more and maybe hook up with her.
In my opinion, the most powerful of all value: Commonalities.
How do I know? Think of your best friend. The guy or girl that you can call randomy at any time. Why do you get along with him ir her so well?
I know that my 3 best friends in the world aren’t guys that I’ve known for 10 years. They’re guys I met a few years ago, but we are all obsesed with pick up, we have a shared goal. We have the strongest commonality that 2 people can have.
Why do some friendships fall appart, and some new are created? Lost or creation of commonalities.
We want to be with people like us. Having a one night stand with someone you have no commonalities with is not a hard thing to do, but being friends or starting a relationship with someone you have no commonalities with is impossible.
This is why for having a healthy life, I recommend you go to school, have a job, watch sports, drink and smoke weed. I do neither of those things and this is why the only close friends I have are PUAs themselves.
Also, being able to demonstrate commonalities early in an interaction with highly raise your value in the eyes of the people you are interacting with, allowing you to “game” them for a longer period of time.
Friends are essential. Successful friends even more so. You choose who you wish to hang out with, and develop group-think with.
Ultimately, the saying goes, ‘to be successful, you should hang around with successful people’, regardless of the values (picking up, financial success, exploring the world, developing communities).
Great article.
Thanks bro