The Fingerman Method

1. Always stay until 4 am or at least until your wings want to leave. Always be the last one staying.

2. Always say “yes!” to whatever venue you’re going, set to open or crazy stuff to do. Be down for anything.

3. Never complain about anything such as pain, fatigue, fear, lack of sets. Reframe everything as positive.

4. Open lots of sets. Let your wings join. Let them have some of your chicks if they like them instantly.

5. Go and wing your wingman in every set he’s been in for a while (unless he obviously doesn’t need a wing). But peace out if the chick doesn’t like you. Remember that a wingman is only optional and not needed in any set. The best purpose of wings is just to hang out at the bar and have fun. If you have no game or your game is retarded then don’t wing at all lol.

6. When winging, only engage the other chicks. Never your wing’s cherished girl. Lead and isolate the other chicks so that he’s alone. Talk talk and talk to the obstacles. Don’t just sit there and chill. Don’t start a group conversation with your wing and his cherish. As soon as it’s on which could be instantly or after 10 minutes, all rules go away. Just chill and enjoy.

7. Never give your wingman negative feedback on his game, only positive. Always tell him that his set was amazing. Tell him what he’s doing right. Focus on what was positive about the set. Could be how hot the girl was. That she smiled. Anything positive but never try to correct him. If you are teaching someone, never correct him, give him something to practice and send him into sets. If he doesn’t do it, it means he’s not ready yet. Just keep sending him into sets and every couple of sets give him something else to try such as “Try to claw” or “go open that set and be SUPER chill”. No micro managing or negative nonsense. You can do negative such as, “go talk to this girl and don’t claw her” or something like that but most of the time you can just use a positive form. Only focus on one thing at a time when sending your learning wings into sets.

8. Go out everyday and text/call them every time you go out. If they are unsure just plow and tell them to come. They need to feel like every time they don’t come out they are disappointing you and that you will think they are chodes (even if it’s obviously not the case). Don’t put him down if he doesn’t come out. If they don’t come, you don’t give a fuck cause you love going out alone anyway. In any case that they call you, you’re always down. Anytime, anywhere. You’d rather go pick up with your wings than go out on day 2s or fuck your girlfriends.

I think almost everyone has something weird or creepy or not calibrated about them when they are picking up chicks.

And I think if you really want to be successful at this you need to be able to see it. You need to be able to see the emotion that you make the girls feel. This is something that Jeffy talks about in his bootcamp.

An example is like Alex in the video that got leaked. If you remember he tells the girl something like “Ok maybe you think this is a little weird but I was conceived to this song and I really feel the love right now”. And throughout the video he keeps making references to other men in Australia being pussies and that he doesn’t like that.

So the girl is kind of weirded out by this strange man that just came and talked to her, but she can rationalize that he is like that because of what he said and that it’s normal. So she is not creeped out anymore and she can fully enjoy Alex’s good sides even if they are outside of her reality.

But does he have to do it with all the girls? I don’t think so, I think some of them will just fully love him when he’s like that. They wont even question it they’ll think that shit is normal.

So if he didn’t calibrate his approach by saying that stuff then he would only pull chicks that love that side of him and don’t judge it.

So some girls will love that side of you that is different or uncalibrated, but you will end up losing a lot of them fast unless you see it, and calibrate it to the girl.

This is why people that game like robot just spitting things at girls (whether is was a routine, improvised shit or caveman kino) suck at picking up chicks. They are just going through the moves without looking at how they make the women feel. This is something that Jeffy talks about in his posts and bootcamps so I didn’t pull it out of nowhere.

Yes you need to ignore the shit test, but you cant ignore what they feel.

I’ll never reply logically to a woman’s “You’re creepy”. But if I feel she is creeped out I will proactively do something to change it. That is the difference. If she says it she’s testing you. If she feels it it’s different, she’s not testing you, that’s how you’re making her feel and she will probably leave soon unless you do something.

How it works for me is that I always get way too close to them too quickly and talk in their ears and hold their waist.

Some girls love that shit. Some girls think it’s creepy as fuck. So with the girls that think it’s creepy I make some kind of rationalization for them like “Oh I’m sorry I’m from Canada and this is my first day here I’m really excited.” Could be anything it’s just the one I’ve been using this week.

So the fact that I can get away with being so close to them so quickly it’s so powerful because maybe she gets comfortable around me quickly, or turned on or she rationalizes that she likes me or I dunno. Same with Alex, the fact that he can get away with being so self amusing and spitting so many words, I’m sure it helps him a lot, I’m not sure how lol but whatever.

Anyway I hope this makes sense, this is something that is not talked about very often here and I think it’s massively important. Jeffy refers to it as “riding the emotionnal wave”. I think it’s important that there is an expression for it so that people put a label on the concept and internalize it.

In this order:

1. A new earth -> Talks about being in the moment, letting go of the past and problems.

2. Mastery -> Talks about plateaus while learning a skill, and why you should embrace them.

3. Awaken the giant within -> Talks about positivity and how to have necessary inner game for picking up girls (The most important book, all the inner game principles seem to be based on it)

4. 7 habits of highly effective people -> Talks about how to understand people (women are people), and to communicated effectively with them, and get what you want and to proactively work in your circle of influence.

5. ??? Not sure yet, I’ve read David Deida and Iron John and other community recommended books and yes they are very good but they didn’t change my life like those ones did.

I also recommend you read them slowly, throughout the year. Like maybe 30 minutes a day or 2 hours a week or something like that. This way you will really get to experience what you read in real time and internalyse it.

You guys are fucking losers. Its time for a change.

If you don’t know me, I’m a cool ass motherfucker.

I fuck tons of girls, I have money working for me (I don’t work), I have awesome friends, I’m pretty fit and I travel pretty often which is what I like. I’m also an intern for RSD. Oh and I’m 21, and I used to be a loser just like you.

So if you are a complete loser in all areas of life and want a cool ass life in 1 year from now, 2 years from now, you need to start doing the following:

1. Move to a cheap city with a good weather, good night life and good working opportunity. Have a place with your own room near the bars and clubs. No suburb BS or shitty city.

2. Make good friends that like to go out and that encourage or pick up girls with you. I don’t care if they are faggots with no game. They have to be good friends, you have to love them, and you need to go out with them.

3. Start going out minimum 4 nights a week. All night. You don’t count the number of sets you open. Its a marathon, not a sprint. You open all night until you leave, and you leave when the bar closes and there is no more girls on the street. Don’t go out alone and do 4 approaches. That shit doesn’t work. Make friends. Beast all night.

4. Money: Start working on your money situation. Make money with a job, and invest your money into passive income streams. You will need to learn and specialize in one or a few income streams. Passive income are things like Websites (internet marketing), Buildings, Laundry mats, Vending machines, TVs with ads, Stocks, a business that you own, etc. You need to learn and specialize. And you need a fucking job first to invest your money. Work at Mc Donald’s if you don’t have education I don’t care. Live cheaply. No iphones, no blazers, no cars, nothing. You invest all the money you can and you eat rammens.

5. Read self help books, especially the ones recommended by the pua community. Those books will teach you game alone. Don’t hang out on forums the only people giving advice on there don’t get laid. Don’t read pua ebooks, they only want to make money and they don’t know shit. You want to be reading at least 10 books a year.

6. Work out and eat healthy. Do crossfit or P90X or anything you want. You need to get in shape. Getting laid isn’t fun unless you are in shape. You don’t want to die young. You want to be healthy. Its so important. Work out at least 3 times a week and more depending on what you do. If you need to lose weight, eat healthy and stop over eating and drinking (alcohol and coke) you fat fuck.

7. Start meditating. At least 20 minutes a day. Meditation will make your game 1000 times better. Brad does it. I don’t know why it works. It just does. It’s magical.

8. At some point take a bootcamp. It will fix some of your game problem and make you get laid more.

9. Forget about TV, computer games, masturbating, eating donuts and all the things you think are fun. They are not fun. They are making you more of a loser every single day.

That’s all. That’s my life. Do that for a couple of years and you’ll be a very rich, very successful and very happy man.