They say in the community not to ask questions, to make statements.
It is true that it will be better to say “You look like you’re from California” instead of saying “Are you from California?”. It is also true that it would be better to say “I like to ice skate.” instead of saying “Do you like to ice skate?”
The reasons for that are obvious.
Though, asking questions that can be answered by YES or NO builds complience. People always wonder how I can pull girls and build so much complience by just standing there and talking.
I don’t lead. I don’t say “Let’s do this”. I don’t say “You look like an independant person.” I ask the question. Instead I inception myself in their mind. I plant the seed, and let it grow.
Do you think I’m handsome?
If we had been dating for a while, would you fuck me tonight?
Do you want to go for a walk?
Do you want to come home with me?
Can I go with you?
All those questions serve one purpose, to build complience slowly. If she agrees to a question like that, her mind will start thinking that way because every person is always striving for consistency in their behaviors. If she agrees that you’re handsome, it will not make sense for her to not want to kiss you. If you ask her do you want to kiss, it will not make sense for her not to do it. If you ask her, do you want to come to my house and she says yes, it will not make sense for her to freak out halfway through or to decide to go home all of a sudden when her friends call her.
Build complience, build consistency.
I always ask girls:
Do you want to see me again?
Do you want to hang out this week?
What do you think about me?
Do you think I would make a good boyfriend?
They don’t always answer, but when they do, they rarely answer negatively, because they are scared of offending you, so the fear of offending you is stronger than the fear of having to be consistent with her past behaviors.
You obviously want to start with smaller questions that she will answer “yes” for sure.
Thanks for your advice, but I think I need a little bit of clarification on some of these points.
Asking questions like these just seems a little bit needy. From my own experience, when I have asked women “do you want to see me again,” they almost always say yes, but only to make the situation not feel awkward. In this case I do think it’s better to make an assumption like “when we see each other next…” and then see if she complies.
“What do you think of me” just seems like you are seeking approval.
I like the idea of a building a “yes latter” to build compliance, but I don’t think that “do you want to see me again” is the right question to be asking. When you want to ask a question that you know she’s going to say yes to? Like “do you like to have fun?”I feel like with a yes ladder, you don’t want to get too specific–because otherwise you run the risk of having a “no ladder”.
I essentially agree with you. I used to do it a lot because in my pick ups I didnt spend any time building complience. Now that I do, girls actually just do what I say and follow me (when it works), so asking questions becomes dumb.