Hey guys I’m Donald and I’m guest writing here at the pleasure of Fingerman himself. So who am I? Well, I don’t see myself as a pickup artist, or player even though I’ve been called both. I think though compared to most guys who do consider themselves ladies men, I am actually more qualified to teach you a thing-or-two about meeting women. This is because while I did go through a phase of extreme nerdyness, where I tried to learn about women through reading the material of, and listening to other guys, eventually I started learning exclusively from being with women and doing my own analysis and I think I have original takes on a bunch of stuff as a result.
Obviously I couldn’t do that right away cause I didn’t know what or how to think at first. However it definitively was when I started trusting myself and experience above all other voices, I was able to unlock a super power the likes of which has never been seen…
NORMALCY!
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“Oh, there goes another douche telling me to just be myself.”
I am NOT telling you to just be yourself. I do think being yourself is the ultimate strategy-it’s what I and Fingerman do I think, but it only works if you naturally want to do the right things and are serious about getting laid. If you naturally want to say stupid things, being yourself will result in you being an ass. If you naturally want to stay at home getting high and playing video games and watching porn at times when you could be with people, being yourself will result in you staying at home being a depressed btard. If you naturally want to follow women around like a creeper, well you get the picture…
I’m instead telling you to learn what normal is. When I tell guys being normal is the key, they will often turn to me and say “but isn’t that what all guys do?” to which I respond “who cares?” It’s also my honest opinion. If every guy was getting exactly what they wanted out of life by doing something cliche, would you not do it too?
The nice truth is however, most guys aren’t normal! The crazy thing about the world is, the AVERAGE guy isn’t normal. It’s normal to have the kind of relationships you are inclined to enjoy, it’s normal to have fun, it’s normal to feel like a fucking boss a good amount of the time, and it’s normal to have adult level ideas about attraction, relationships, sex, health and love. Most guys are sketchy/creepy, depressed and frustrated. Frankly too, most pickup artist type guys I’ve met are a notch below that. Usually having put forth zero effort into thinking about what they are doing and I think it’s ironic because they spend their energy trying to stand out as something somehow better than normal.
When I say normal, I mean healthy. There is no such thing as better-than-healthy and of course, health comes from a number of things: lifestyle, habit, discipline, saying fuck it and getting drunk, taking care of yourself, learning to communicate and included in that is getting help when necessary. I am a particular kind of help- a guide. An experienced one of course, but still, acting in a relatively simply capacity: I’m just a dude who is willing to help you walk your own path, when it comes to learning about women and communication, by comparing it with mine, providing an impartial eye and offering some insights. My development involved mostly cold approaching- that was my path, and it was a very long and rocky one with a lot of unexpected turns and plateaus and epic amazing adventures and I’m still going.
what it looks like most of the time where I meet my girls lol
My feeling is, most guys start off imitating men they think are universally badass. This results in the guy putting out a weird vibe where you can tell he’s trying hard, at best. Eventually this act gets decent but has to be dropped when it’s discovered being genuine and calibrated to your enviroment is crucial to attraction- even more so than communicating those things you are so desperate to say/do with women cause you think it’s cool. So it’s when you have the experience that you can start making actual bad-ass decisions that things really start happening. Your potential is the level to which you’re willing to CHANGE. It’s all about change work. Pretending to be someone else is a waste of time.
I guess that sums up my over arching philosophy on seduction. Hopefully it’s something you’re interested in hearing more about. I’ve got a few more articles coming for you guys and there’s a bunch of practical, powerful stuff, and stories included so stay tuned and of course, Fingerman is still around and I’m sure you’ll be hearing from him soon. For more info on me check my profile.
Yo This paragraph is DOPE! My exactly feelings
“My feeling is, most guys start off imitating men they think are universally badass. This results in the guy putting out a weird vibe where you can tell he’s trying hard, at best. Eventually this act gets decent but has to be dropped when it’s discovered being genuine and calibrated to your enviroment is crucial to attraction- even more so than communicating those things you are so desperate to say/do with women cause you think it’s cool. So it’s when you have the experience that you can start making actual bad-ass decisions that things really start happening. Your potential is the level to which you’re willing to CHANGE. It’s all about change work. Pretending to be someone else is a waste of time.”
Sweet
You wanna rank for “Madison” bro?
Can I rank for Bill?
Good luck lol